Resilience-What It Is and How to Achieve It

Resilience is NOT a natural-born quality. That’s good news! It means it’s something available to everyone and can be achieved through skill and practice.

Resilience IS a skill-set that allows people to move forward and keep growing in a situation where others might feel up against a wall.

Since it is a skill-set, it’s something you can draw on, not something you have to count on.

People think that resilience is about positivity-that it precludes ever having a bad day or week or month. Or it precludes having depression or anxiety-it doesn’t. It doesn’t change who you are, it’s a skill-set that you can layer on top of who you are.

Cheryl C. Jones chats with guest, Courtney Clark, the self-proclaimed luckiest unlucky person in the world, about living a resilient life.

After a series of major struggles beginning in her mid-20s, she has built two successful businesses and is the author of two books, including her most recent;
The Successful Struggle: Powerful Techniques to Achieve Accelerated Resilience.

Courtney works with people who want to adapt faster and achieve more and has spoken worldwide to organizations like Procter & Gamble, Dell, S&P, Humana, Cisco, and Cardinal Health.

In this episode, Courtney shares her thoughts for living resiliently.

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Resilience-What It Is and How to Achieve It

Intro:

Resilience is NOT a natural-born quality. That’s good news! It means it’s something available to everyone and can be achieved through skill and practice.

Resilience IS a skill-set that allows people to move forward and keep growing in a situation where others might feel up against a wall.

Since it is a skill-set, it’s something you can draw on, not something you have to count on.

People think that resilience is about positivity-that it precludes ever having a bad day or week or month. Or it precludes having depression or anxiety-it doesn’t. It doesn’t change who you are, it’s a skill-set that you can layer on top of who you are.

Cheryl C. Jones chats with guest, Courtney Clark, the self-proclaimed luckiest unlucky person in the world, about living a resilient life.

After a series of major struggles beginning in her mid-20s, she has built two successful businesses and is the author of two books, including her most recent;
The Successful Struggle: Powerful Techniques to Achieve Accelerated Resilience.

Courtney works with people who want to adapt faster and achieve more and has spoken worldwide to organizations like Procter & Gamble, Dell, S&P, Humana, Cisco, and Cardinal Health.

In this episode, Courtney shares her thoughts for living resiliently.

Summary

• Listen instead of reacting
• Ask Questions

• What have I tried?
• What do I think I should try?

• Self-Efficacy
• Self resilience-Believe I can do this!
• Focus on what you can control (what can I control vs. what am I concerned about)

• Locus of Control

• Internal-I can do some things but not all things to help
• External-I can do nothing because it’s not my fault

• Feeding Resilience

• Volunteer to gain perspective

• It’s easier to do for others-you can see what they need. You can fix something for them.
• You realize you aren’t as powerless as you feel
• It helps build momentum
• You feel needed and competent

• Journal. Especially gratitude journaling to change your perspective to gratitude
• Consume and create-take in something to feed your mind, then create something
• Take breaks from stress-break negative energy patterns

• Stress is adrenalin and cortisol within our bodies-our panic button
• Stop Drop and Roll

• 1 Stop what you are doing
• 2 Do something different
• 3 Drop into lower emotional gear
• 4 Pick back up with internal locus of control

• Adaptive Thinking

• Three domains to develop

• Brains
• Behavior
• Business

• Helps you become more flexible, and thus more resilient
• Shifts your perspective to see others’
• It’s organic-bottom to top
• New situations or environments need new solutions-

• Ask what else? Enough times to create 4 good options

• 1 What else can I do?
• 2 What else could work?
• 3 What else could be the cause?
• 4 What else could be their motivation?

• Goldilocks Paradox-when we have 3 options

• Not thinking when choosing
• More options cause us to think more critically

• First Thought Wrong

• It may not be the best way, best assumption, best conclusion
• Doesn’t go deep enough

• I wonder, hmmm, om

• Ask, I wonder….or stop and say hmmm (or Ommmmm)
• Brings deeper, richer, more valuable solutions to the surface

• Future orientation-seeing the “bad or negative” as temporary

Connecting with Courtney Clark:
www.CourtneyClark.com
Email:Courtney@CourtneyClark.com Courtney’s Book:
The Successful Struggle: Powerful Techniques to Achieve Accelerated Resilience