Resilience is NOT a natural-born quality. That’s good news! It means it’s something available to everyone and can be achieved through skill and practice.

Resilience IS a skill-set that allows people to move forward and keep growing in a situation where others might feel up against a wall.

Since it is a skill-set, it’s something you can draw on, not something you have to count on.

People think that resilience is about positivity-that it precludes ever having a bad day or week or month. Or it precludes having depression or anxiety-it doesn’t. It doesn’t change who you are, it’s a skill-set that you can layer on top of who you are.

Cheryl C. Jones chats with guest, Courtney Clark, the self-proclaimed luckiest unlucky person in the world, about living a resilient life.

After a series of major struggles beginning in her mid-20s, she has built two successful businesses and is the author of two books, including her most recent;
The Successful Struggle: Powerful Techniques to Achieve Accelerated Resilience.

Courtney works with people who want to adapt faster and achieve more and has spoken worldwide to organizations like Procter & Gamble, Dell, S&P, Humana, Cisco, and Cardinal Health.

In this episode, Courtney shares her thoughts for living resiliently.

Complete Show Notes:

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Getting Simply The Best Results Podcast
Episode 6 Summary
With
Courtney Clark

Episode 6:
Resilience-What It Is and How to Achieve It

Intro:

Resilience is NOT a natural-born quality. That’s good news! It means it’s something available to everyone and can be achieved through skill and practice.

Resilience IS a skill-set that allows people to move forward and keep growing in a situation where others might feel up against a wall.

Since it is a skill-set, it’s something you can draw on, not something you have to count on.

People think that resilience is about positivity-that it precludes ever having a bad day or week or month. Or it precludes having depression or anxiety-it doesn’t. It doesn’t change who you are, it’s a skill-set that you can layer on top of who you are.

Cheryl C. Jones chats with guest, Courtney Clark, the self-proclaimed luckiest unlucky person in the world, about living a resilient life.

After a series of major struggles beginning in her mid-20s, she has built two successful businesses and is the author of two books, including her most recent;
The Successful Struggle: Powerful Techniques to Achieve Accelerated Resilience.

Courtney works with people who want to adapt faster and achieve more and has spoken worldwide to organizations like Procter & Gamble, Dell, S&P, Humana, Cisco, and Cardinal Health.

In this episode, Courtney shares her thoughts for living resiliently.

Summary

  • Listen instead of reacting
  • Ask Questions
  • What have I tried?
  • What do I think I should try?
  • Self-Efficacy
  • Self resilience-Believe I can do this!
  • Focus on what you can control (what can I control vs. what am I concerned about)
  • Locus of Control
  • Internal-I can do some things but not all things to help
  • External-I can do nothing because it’s not my fault
  • Feeding Resilience
  • Volunteer to gain perspective
  • It’s easier to do for others-you can see what they need. You can fix something for them.
  • You realize you aren’t as powerless as you feel
  • It helps build momentum
  • You feel needed and competent
  • Journal. Especially gratitude journaling to change your perspective to gratitude
  • Consume and create-take in something to feed your mind, then create something
  • Take breaks from stress-break negative energy patterns
  • Stress is adrenalin and cortisol within our bodies-our panic button
  • Stop Drop and Roll
  • 1 Stop what you are doing
  • 2 Do something different
  • 3 Drop into lower emotional gear
  • 4 Pick back up with internal locus of control
  • Adaptive Thinking
  • Three domains to develop
  • Brains
  • Behavior
  • Business
  • Helps you become more flexible, and thus more resilient
  • Shifts your perspective to see others’
  • It’s organic-bottom to top
  • New situations or environments need new solutions-
  • Ask what else? Enough times to create 4 good options
  • 1 What else can I do?
  • 2 What else could work?
  • 3 What else could be the cause?
  • 4 What else could be their motivation?
  • Goldilocks Paradox-when we have 3 options
  • Not thinking when choosing
  • More options cause us to think more critically
  • First Thought Wrong
  • It may not be the best way, best assumption, best conclusion
  • Doesn’t go deep enough
  • I wonder, hmmm, om
  • Ask, I wonder....or stop and say hmmm (or Ommmmm)
  • Brings deeper, richer, more valuable solutions to the surface
  • Future orientation-seeing the “bad or negative” as temporary

Connecting with Courtney Clark:
www.CourtneyClark.com
Email:Courtney@CourtneyClark.com

Courtney’s Book:
The Successful Struggle: Powerful Techniques to Achieve Accelerated Resilience

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