Resilience is NOT a natural-born quality. That’s good news! It means it’s something available to everyone and can be achieved through skill and practice.
Resilience IS a skill-set that allows people to move forward and keep growing in a situation where others might feel up against a wall.
Since it is a skill-set, it’s something you can draw on, not something you have to count on.
People think that resilience is about positivity-that it precludes ever having a bad day or week or month. Or it precludes having depression or anxiety-it doesn’t. It doesn’t change who you are, it’s a skill-set that you can layer on top of who you are.
Cheryl C. Jones chats with guest, Courtney Clark, the self-proclaimed luckiest unlucky person in the world, about living a resilient life.
After a series of major struggles beginning in her mid-20s, she has built two successful businesses and is the author of two books, including her most recent;
The Successful Struggle: Powerful Techniques to Achieve Accelerated Resilience.
Courtney works with people who want to adapt faster and achieve more and has spoken worldwide to organizations like Procter & Gamble, Dell, S&P, Humana, Cisco, and Cardinal Health.
In this episode, Courtney shares her thoughts for living resiliently.
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Courtney Clark Episode 6:
Resilience-What It Is and How to Achieve It
Intro:
Resilience is NOT a natural-born quality. That’s good news! It means it’s something available to everyone and can be achieved through skill and practice.
Resilience IS a skill-set that allows people to move forward and keep growing in a situation where others might feel up against a wall.
Since it is a skill-set, it’s something you can draw on, not something you have to count on.
People think that resilience is about positivity-that it precludes ever having a bad day or week or month. Or it precludes having depression or anxiety-it doesn’t. It doesn’t change who you are, it’s a skill-set that you can layer on top of who you are.
Cheryl C. Jones chats with guest, Courtney Clark, the self-proclaimed luckiest unlucky person in the world, about living a resilient life.
After a series of major struggles beginning in her mid-20s, she has built two successful businesses and is the author of two books, including her most recent;
The Successful Struggle: Powerful Techniques to Achieve Accelerated Resilience.
Courtney works with people who want to adapt faster and achieve more and has spoken worldwide to organizations like Procter & Gamble, Dell, S&P, Humana, Cisco, and Cardinal Health.
In this episode, Courtney shares her thoughts for living resiliently.
Summary
- Listen instead of reacting
- Ask Questions
- What have I tried?
- What do I think I should try?
- Self-Efficacy
- Self resilience-Believe I can do this!
- Focus on what you can control (what can I control vs. what am I concerned about)
- Locus of Control
- Internal-I can do some things but not all things to help
- External-I can do nothing because it’s not my fault
- Feeding Resilience
- Volunteer to gain perspective
- It’s easier to do for others-you can see what they need. You can fix something for them.
- You realize you aren’t as powerless as you feel
- It helps build momentum
- You feel needed and competent
- Journal. Especially gratitude journaling to change your perspective to gratitude
- Consume and create-take in something to feed your mind, then create something
- Take breaks from stress-break negative energy patterns
- Stress is adrenalin and cortisol within our bodies-our panic button
- Stop Drop and Roll
- 1 Stop what you are doing
- 2 Do something different
- 3 Drop into lower emotional gear
- 4 Pick back up with internal locus of control
- Adaptive Thinking
- Three domains to develop
- Brains
- Behavior
- Business
- Helps you become more flexible, and thus more resilient
- Shifts your perspective to see others’
- It’s organic-bottom to top
- New situations or environments need new solutions-
- Ask what else? Enough times to create 4 good options
- 1 What else can I do?
- 2 What else could work?
- 3 What else could be the cause?
- 4 What else could be their motivation?
- Goldilocks Paradox-when we have 3 options
- Not thinking when choosing
- More options cause us to think more critically
- First Thought Wrong
- It may not be the best way, best assumption, best conclusion
- Doesn’t go deep enough
- I wonder, hmmm, om
- Ask, I wonder….or stop and say hmmm (or Ommmmm)
- Brings deeper, richer, more valuable solutions to the surface
- Future orientation-seeing the “bad or negative” as temporary
Connecting with Courtney Clark:
www.CourtneyClark.com
Email:Courtney@CourtneyClark.com Courtney’s Book:
The Successful Struggle: Powerful Techniques to Achieve Accelerated Resilience
