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Emotional Self-Mastery Assessment
How well do you know yourself? I expect that you would say, “I know myself pretty well.” But do you? Do you know yourself well enough to know what things trigger a negative emotional response within you? Are you able to recognize the thoughts that cause you grief? Many people are aware of when they get emotionally triggered, but few are aware of the thought patterns behind the triggers, which were actually the originating cause of their emotional discomfort.
Let’s look at what may be triggering you. Think about your answers to these questions.
- Do the actions or words of others easily affect you emotionally?
- What do others do that causes you frustration or anger?
- Do you have a co-worker who drives you nuts?
- Does your boss, family member, or partner say things that get under your skin?
- Have you ever been told that you’re “too sensitive”?
Take the following self-assessment to help you determine how often your emotions are running your life. It will also give you an idea of how well you manage your responses to negative triggers. Using a scale of 1 to 5, rate each statement to indicate how often you’ve experienced the feeling or scenario.
Rating Scale
1 – Frequently
2 – Often
3 – Occasionally
4 – Rarely
5 – Never
- How often do you feel overwhelmed at work or at home?
- With what frequency do you get irritated by the actions or attitudes of others?
- How much of the time are you trying to make others happy?
- How often do you fight or argue with a partner or a family member?
- How frequently do you feel that your life or destiny is out of your control?
- How often do you complain about family members, your partner, or work?
- How much time do you spend telling others what’s wrong with your life or relationship?
- How frequently do you become defensive when others correct you?
- How often have you been told that you wear your feelings on your sleeve or are too sensitive?
- With what frequency do you feel like you’ll explode in either anger or tears?
- How often do you become mad at work?
- How often do you criticize your appearance or your body?
- How often have you hung on to an unhealthy relationship for fear of being alone or never finding someone else?
- How often have you been involved with conflict or controversy at work, with neighbors, or with friends?
- How often do you blame others for you not meeting expectations?
- How frequently does teasing from co-workers or friends get under your skin?
- How often do you lose your patience with a co-worker, boss, or family member?
- How often have you had the thought that you are not living the life you deserve?
- How often do you cut others off when they are talking?
- How often do you worry about feeling rejected by someone important to you?
Your Emotional Self-Mastery Score
Total the points for each of your answers to determine your emotional self-mastery score:
80 or higher – You’re a Super Star! – You have a high level of self-awareness and are likely on your way to emotional self-mastery. You are not easily triggered by the actions, words, and attitudes of others. You likely take the behavior of others in stride and not personally.
70 – 80 – You’re Better Than Most, Good Job! – You have an above-average level of self-awareness and are making headway toward emotional self-mastery. Continue to stay conscious of your thoughts and assumptions, and recognize the role they play in triggering your emotions.
60 – 70 – You’re Doing OK, Could Be Better – You are ripe for more happiness. There is room for increased self-awareness. You may want to make a list of the things that cause you the most frustration and apply the techniques in this book to learn how to avoid getting triggered so often.
60 or below – You’re Struggling, Aren’t You? – You are likely experiencing many emotions daily, and you may feel out of control at times. Be aware that your emotions may be a liability in your interpersonal relationships and could be causing you problems at work and home. You may want to seek professional assistance to address the internal anger, hurt, or resentment that may be triggering you.
In my book, Emotional Self Mastery: The Best Book on Regaining Personal Power, Self-Confidence and Peace, you will find twelve techniques to help you neutralize challenging issues. If you’re looking for faster, more comprehensive results, I’d welcome an introductory call to see if we are a good fit.
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